Saturday, May 27, 2017

What Is Emotional Intelligence?

Emotional intelligence is the ability to identify and manage your own emotions and the emotions of others. It is generally said to include three skills: emotional awareness; the ability to harness emotions and apply them to tasks like thinking and problem solving; and the ability to manage emotions, which includes regulating your own emotions and cheering up or calming down other people.-(psychology today)
In practical terms, this means being aware that emotions can drive our behavior and impact people (positively and negatively), and learning how to manage those emotions – both our own and others – especially when we are under pressure.
A critical Life skill for any success in life

Emotional Intelligence- Managing Your Emotions- Mastering Your Life

Fears feed on our Emotional Ignorance when we learn more about our fears , that they are thoughts we choose etc we become more Emotionally intelligent and then if they don't disappear our fears at the very least start to work for us instead of us working for our fears.

Emotional Intelligence- Managing Your Emotions- Mastering Your Life

When you choose not hold a grudge you leave others where they choose to be and you move forward to live your life and become the person you can be unhindered.

Emotional Intelligence- Managing Your Emotions- Mastering Your Life

To blame someone for how you to choose to feel is emotional immaturity
To take responsibility for the way you choose to interpret what someone says or does is to boost your emotional intelligence through the understanding that the way we choose to think directly impacts they way we feel.

Quotes about Emotional Intelligence

If your emotional abilities aren't in hand, if you don't have self-awareness, if you are not able to manage your distressing emotions, if you can't have empathy and have effective relationships, then no matter how smart you are, you are not going to get very far. -Daniel Goleman
75 percent of careers are derailed for reasons related to emotional competencies, including inability to handle interpersonal problems; unsatisfactory team leadership during times of difficulty or conflict; or inability to adapt to change or elicit trust. -Center for Creative Leadership
When dealing with people, remember you are not dealing with creatures of logic, but with creatures of emotion. -Dale Carnegie
When our emotional health is in a bad state, so is our level of self-esteem. We have to slow down and deal with what is troubling us, so that we can enjoy the simple joy of being happy and at peace with ourselves. -Jess C. Scott
The only way to change someone's mind is to connect with them from the heart.
-Rasheed Ogunlaru
No one cares how much you know, until they know how much you care.
-Theodore Roosevelt
Unleash in the right time and place before you explode at the wrong time and place. -Oli Anderson
The greatest ability in business is to get along with others and influence their actions. -John Hancock
Any person capable of angering you becomes your master. -Epictetus
Experience is not what happens to you--it's how you interpret what happens to you. -Aldous Huxley
Emotional intelligence is the ability to sense, understand, and effectively apply the power and acumen of emotions as a source of human energy, information, connection, and influence. -Robert K. Cooper, PhD
It is very important to understand that emotional intelligence is not the opposite of intelligence, it is not the triumph of heart over head--it is the unique intersection of both. -David Caruso
We define emotional intelligence as the subset of social intelligence that involves the ability to monitor one's own and others' feelings and emotions, to discriminate among them and to use this information to guide one's thinking and actions. -Salovey and Mayer
Let's not forget that the little emotions are the great captains of our lives and we obey them without realizing it. -Vincent van Gogh
The essential difference between emotion and reason is that emotion leads to action while reason leads to conclusions. -Donald Calne
If we lack emotional intelligence, whenever stress rises the human brain switches to autopilot and has an inherent tendency to do more of the same, only harder. Which, more often than not, is precisely the wrong approach in today's world.
-Robert K. Cooper
Never react emotionally to criticism. Analyze yourself to determine whether it is justified. If it is, correct yourself. Otherwise, go on about your business. -Norman Vincent Peale
To increase your effectiveness, make your emotions subordinate to your commitments. -Brian Koslow
The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.
 -Carl R. Rogers
In my 35 years in business, I have always trusted my emotions. I have always believed that by touching emotion you get the best people to work with you, the best clients to inspire you, the best partners and most devoted customers.
 -Kevin Roberts
Emotional intelligence is a way of recognizing, understanding, and choosing how we think, feel, and act. It shapes our interactions with others and our understanding of ourselves. It defines how and what we learn; it allows us to set priorities; it determines the majority of our daily actions. Research suggests it is responsible for as much as 80 percent of the "success" in our lives. -J. Freedman
Use pain as a stepping stone, not a camp ground." -- Alan Cohen
We are dangerous when we are not conscious of our responsibility for how we behave, think, and feel. -- Marshall B. Rosenberg
We cannot tell what may happen to us in the strange medley of life. But we can decide what happens in us--how we can take it, what we do with it--and that is what really counts in the end. -- Joseph Fort Newton
When awareness is brought to an emotion, power is brought to your life. -- Tara Meyer Robson
Emotional intelligence does not mean merely "being nice". At strategic moment it may demand not "being nice", but rather, for example, bluntly confronting someone with an uncomfortable but consequential truth they've been avoiding. -- Daniel Goleman
Realize that now, in this moment of time, you are creating. You are creating your next moment based on what you are feeling and thinking. That is what's real. -- Doc Childre
There is only one corner of the universe you can be certain of improving... and that's your own self. -- Aldous Huxley
Maturity is achieved when a person postpones immediate pleasures for long-term values. -- Joshua L. Liebman